“Change is the nature of all things. When we try to stop change, we are fighting nature, and that is a battle we cannot win. Look around you: the seasons change, everything is born and then ages, and we are part of that great moving flow of everything in its perpetual state of transition. When we accept that change is the nature of things, we can become more adept at change ourselves. We become fluent in transitions and skilled at adapting to new circumstances. We move with nature as nature, while embracing the fact that we are part of the unending transformation that is life.” -Susanna Harwood Rubin
My friend, Nicole, a yoga teacher whose class I frequent, read this piece aloud at the end of class yesterday morning. This perspective on change really drew me in because here I am in the midst of some changes myself and so are all of my clients. I’m going through the changes of my fertile years, facing some health issues that I never saw coming, and retiring from the labor room as a doula. It’s all good though.
I have the honor of supporting women through change every single day. For some women transition is so easy and for some it’s like being stuck at 8 cm. The secret to getting through to the other side, is allowing it to happen. You can’t fear change (or transition, for that matter). It’s like riding the waves. Some of you are already rolling your eyes saying, “There she goes again with her birth talk…” But, it’s true. The more we resist, the harder it becomes.
One change for me this year is that I am retiring from attending births. That’s just a logical thing for me to do at this point in my career for a few reasons. I have been sought out to teach trainings and to travel so I am hopping on it. The fact is there is just one of me and I can’t do it all. As some of my followers know, I had some pretty serious health scares at the end of last year. Doctors’ orders are not to attend births any more due to the on-call lifestyle and long hours. My heart broke until other doors started opening. And, don’t let me forget to mention, Bend & Blossom now has a pretty rad team of awesome doulas to take the reigns!
You might say, Change has been my calling. I live for all four seasons and really soak in the elements of each one. Whether it’s the colors, or lack of; the sounds, or lack of. You get the idea. In my work, I focus on change on a cellular level. I am fascinated by the system of hormones that create change in the body throughout the day, and throughout our lives. The change that happens when a woman becomes a mother and the change that happens when a woman is ending her childbearing years as she enters perimenopause and eventually menopause.
When was the last time you actually thought about your hormones and the affect that they have on your daily life? As a culture, we are so focused on the time of pregnancy and welcoming a new baby. But, what about that time in a woman’s life when she feels like she is in puberty all over again times ten? We don’t talk about it. We joke about it, but we don’t talk about it. There is so little support for the woman going through perimenopause compared to that available for pregnancy and new moms.
I’m here to change that because I get it. I get change! Let’s hop on a no-pressure call where you can ask me anything you want to know about your hormones.